Empathy vs Sympathy

Having watched the progression of the campaigns in the last few weeks, it's clear to me that Barack will edge out a narrow victory in the election. Will have it protested, recounted and disputed by every conservative attorney with the time and money to donate to the cause and then, when the smoke clears, McCain ( a gracious loser ) will bow out " for the sake of our country."

I find myself more and more drawn into conversations regarding my personal feelings on the vote and most importantly how I'll cast having been Republican for most of my adult life. The true answer is that I can't, by any stretch of the imagination, vote against Barack Obama. I have trouble seeing how any person of color could. Yes, the elephant in the room is race, and yes I say, unabashedly that race is one of my primary decisive issues. How can any one of Caucasian decent even begin to understand this issue as seen my millions of Afro-American voters. How do you explain to them the feeling that finally there may be a president in office that has a very real and tangible experience to draw from in relation to civil rights issues, job fairness, and discriminatory policies often overlooked by past presidents. That isn't to say any of our past presidents haven't had the country as a whole in their best interest but the human being is a being of self centric interest by nature. We can only understand this world from the perspective given to us at birth. How can any Caucasian understand the depth of degradation felt your child is called a "Nigga" by another child at school because of backwards parenting and a closed mind home environment. The answer is that they can't! They can empathize with the matter but not sympathize with it. There is no way to pass that feeling of rage and sadness on sufficiently for them to have the necessary understanding. Therefor the only real choice for us is a vote cast for a candidate most like ourselves. A man made in the image of us all, White and Black.

Vested with understanding of both cultures in a way that only our children are beginning to understand as more and more mixed culture families become the norm.

Many will read this and find themselves baffled at the notion that one would vote solely on this fact but I ask you, How many will vote against Obama solely based on the same fact. I suspect there will be more than one would think. You see, in the privacy of the voting booth anyone can indulge the prejudices they hold secretly in their hearts. After all, who will know when they arrive at work chipper and unaffected. while still wearing the "Vote Obama" pin they bought online the week before...

It's that reason alone lending credence to my assertion that although won, the race will be closer than most think, and at this point closer than I would hope.

Charisma vs Anything at all...

It's not that I'm particularly taken with either presidential option. I'm fairly conservative in my personal views and liberal in my financial views. I understand the merits of unbound capitalism and the drive needed to succeed but wouldn't turn away government assistance in putting my oldest through college. I'm simply stating that in the vacuum that is the presidential debate, Barak is an absolute master at controlling the subject and the course of the conversation. Not just what is said but what is remembered to be heard! McCain, a true American war hero should be walking away with the election but with mobility issues ( related to his imprisonment in Vietnam ), and a forced smile he just can't seem to win the camera. Nixon had the exact same problem with Kennedy in 1960 when the first televised debate was held.

I watched the other night as he repeatedly took hard questions and applied them to a simple formula that always, and I mean always turned to his advantage. He would take a question, redefine the subject matter to something more palatable, then answer the more palatable definition as if prompted by a hidden script. The reason he always seemed to have the answer is because he changed what the question was to suit the answer he was already prepared to give!

Now, many will think I somehow frown upon this ability... quite the contrary!  Anyone that can change the course of a conversation at that level, deserves credit for the ability. It comes from years of preparation and coaching. One might even say, grooming.

Barak will win the election and become the first Black American president, not because he's the better option ( which he may or may not be ), but because he looks and sounds "the part" more than his rival. After all is said and done, the same superficial standards that have often allowed others to ascend to the highest office will now actually work to the benefit of Senator Obama. We live in a world where perception IS reality, and the perception is that Senator Obama is ready to take the lead and change our course as a country.

I once asked my youngest daughter what was so funny while sitting and watching a family movie at home. She laughed almost uncontrollably while manipulating her glasses to cause a blurred, distorted view of the screen. It caused, in her eyes, people on the screen to appear doubled. When asked to stop her laughing so that the rest of the family could "enjoy" the movie, she promptly replied," But dad, I AM enjoying the movie."

Maybe we should all get some of those glasses. It might be the best thing for our country after all.